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Topic: Of the five underpinnings to common sense child rearing, which do you believe is the most difficult for parents to understand and do in 21st century parenting? Why? Describe two practical strategies for helping parents overcome this one difficult underpinning you described.
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Mandi M
Thursday Jan 20 at 10:44pm
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Discussion Board 2: Common Sense and Child-Rearing
Of the five underpinnings to common sense child rearing, which do you believe is the most difficult for parents to understand and do in 21st century parenting? Why?
Describe two practical strategies for helping parents overcome this one difficult underpinning you described.
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I believe the 2nd underpinning is the most difficult for parents to understand and carry out. It reads: “the best opportunity often occurs after a disciplinary event” (Dobson, 2014, chapter 3). Lots of parents are afraid that disciplining their child will make the child resent or hate them. This is one of the reasons parents will neglect to perform this important act of love. However, as we read this week, “The parents’ demonstration of their authority builds respect like no other process, and the child will often reveal his affection after the initial tears have dried” (Dobson, 2014, chapter 3). Thus, in these moments the child is ready to listen and learn. Parents must use this opportunity wisely.
Therefore, my first practical strategy for parents is to see these events as important to their child’s development and not be afraid of them (Dobson, 2014). Parents should lean into the authority that God has given them over their children and meet the responsibility with conviction as an act of true love. Proverbs 13:24 says, “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him” (ESV).
My second practical strategy is to use truth from the Bible in talks with the disciplined child. After the tears have subsided, a meaningful discussion should take place between parent and child. “You can tell him how much you love him, and how important he is to you. You can explain why he was disciplined and how he can avoid the difficulty next time” (Dobson, 2014, chapter 3). Using the Bible helps children understand that what they did was truly wrong, and it helps grow their understanding of Scripture. It also helps parents to be sure of their discipline. One example is the verse from Proverbs quoted above. Parents can show children that their discipline is an act of love. They can also show specific verses that deal with the child’s offense, like verses on loving their neighbors if the child hits another person or verses about how cheating is wrong if that occurs. As 2 Timothy 3:16 says, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness” (ESV). Thus, if parents want their children to be righteous, they should use the Bible.
References
Dobson, J. C. (2014). The New Dare to Discipline. Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. https://libertyonline.vitalsource.com/books/9781414341743 (Links to an external site.)
English Standard Version. (n.d.). Bible Gateway: English Standard Version (ESV Bible). https://www.biblegateway.com/site-map/versions/English-Standard-Version-ESV-Bible (Links to an external site.)
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Samantha W
Wednesday Jan 19 at 2:15pm
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I believe that of the five underpinnings to common sense child rearing number four is the most difficult for parents to understand and follow in 21st century parenting. The fourth underpinning to common sense child rearing is “Don’t saturate the child with materialism.” Dobson, J. (2014). This is one that even in my own household I am guilty of. I know that is wrong, but yet, I feel myself still participating in such harmful behavior. This underpinning is the one that I took the most notes on because, I wanted to be able to remind myself of the importance of not “cheating my children of pleasure” Dobson, J. (2014) and implement Dr. Dobson’s wisdom in my own house. I think that it is the most difficult in today’s world because the majority of people want to keep up with “The Joneses.” Like I said I am guilty of over indulging my kids with the latest and greatest things that they want, partially because I do not want them to want for things and feel like they cannot have them. The text describe a period of time after the Great Depression where parents could use the honest excuse that they did not have the money. Saying that today has a parent feeling guilty knowing they have the money in some form readily available to satisfy their child’s current want. I am also at the place now of knowing that this can lead to unappreciative children and the example in the text of a child ripping through presents on a holiday only to throw them down and start on the next is something I have seem amongst the older of my two. This past Christmas I noticed my two year old would open one present and be mesmerized and content. She would bring it to me so I could open the box so she could play with it. I began to set it aside and encourage her to continue opening other presents while all she wanted was the present in front of her. Seeing the difference between my four year old and two year old on Christmas, I could not help but think was I the reason that he was ripping through the presents. Because when he was two years old I conditioned him to think and be this way. So a strategy I have come to the realization of now, is that it is okay to allow your children to be content. The other strategy I have come up with is transparency about cost and finances. I am not saying that a parent should make a child feel unsecure about the amount of debt they have but honesty explaining at an age appropriate level to a child that the things they are constantly wanting cost real money that has to be worked for.
“Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5
References
Bible gateway passage: Hebrews 13:5 – new international version. Bible Gateway. (n.d.). Retrieved January 19, 2022, from https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Hebrews+13%3A5&version=NIV (Links to an external site.)
Dobson, J. (2014). The new dare to discipline. Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House.
please reply to both discussion posts. each one around 125 words. I agree with both discussion and reply back with a bible point of view.