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Total words 3000 No plagiarism Give an account of an interpersonal conflict from your own experience. Using observational rather than evaluative language to explore the events, highlight the feelings and needs that you encountered in the conflict. Do this in three stages: a) Choose a conflict from your recent life experience that is not strongly triggering or deeply emotionally loaded for you (disputes over washing up, lost keys, missed appointments, borrowed shoes etc). Write this experience up as a personal narrative (or conflict story) from your own point of view. Do not make any interpretation or analysis of the conflict, merely record your own version of the story. The story you tell needs to be an authentic account of your experience. This is necessary as it is the only way you can learn about what really matters to you. Your judgements and emotions are your raw data in this respect. In this, recall our discussion of the phrase ‘Emotions are a gift for the Peacemaker’. You need to record your judgements and blame and strong emotions as honestly and authentically as you can. This stage of the assignment is pure data collection. You are not looking for ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, you are not trying to understand who is to blame, and you are not trying to solve the conflict. You are trying to connect to how you felt in that moment. This part of the assignment will not provide the data that you need unless you connect to the judgements and emotions that were happening for you in this conflict or incident (as a guide, think about writing around 200 words for this part). b) Then comment on your experience from a Nonviolent Communication perspective, using your awareness of the components of Nonviolent Communication: Observations, feelings, needs and requests. Specifically, you are being asked to identify and highlight the likely feelings and needs driving the conflict for you. I want you to demonstrate your understanding of the Nonviolent Communication insight that conflict is caused by two parties attempting to protect the needs/ values that matter to them most. Remember, it is the strategies for meeting those needs/values that are in conflict, not the needs themselves. I am asking you to show that you are able to observe what triggered the conflict for you, also that you are able to sense and guess what feelings were aroused by the trigger(s), and also that you can guess at what needs might have been unmet for you. This work involves taking yourself and your needs seriously. Think to yourself as you study your story: when I observed this trigger (identify whatever event or observation you were reacting to), what was my feeling, and what might I have been needing? Reflect on the need(s) that you encountered, say something about what you value about this/these need(s). Then think about possible doable requests (not demands) you could make of yourself or others that would assist you in meeting this need. Refer to the introductory hand out on Nonviolent Communication that I asked you to read. Double check that you are clear about the ideas I am asking you to use. I am looking for clarity and fluency in relation to Nonviolent Communication. Be sure you study the slides and the support materials and be confident about your understanding of the key terms and ideas (about 500 words). c) Finally, make an attempt to guess at, or think about, or reflect on, what might have been going on for the other person in the conflict, in terms of their observations, feelings, and needs? Be very clear that this can only be guesswork and speculation. Think to yourself as you reflect on the other person: what might they have observed that triggered strong feelings for them (whatever event or observation you think they might have been reacting to – remember to use observational language), what is your best guess about what they were feeling, and what might they have been needing? Then think about possible doable requests (not demands) they could make of themselves or others that would assist them in meeting this need (about 300 words).